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Today I had a lunch date with a man I met on Match.com. We had chatted on the phone and through E-mail and exchanged photos. When I arrived at the restaurant and met him, he didn't smile, he barely spoke and he stared at his menu for a very long time. The waitress came back 3 times to see if we were ready to order and he kept saying "No.". Finally, I noticed that his hands were shaking so I thought he might be ill. I asked him if anything was wrong and he said, "Yes! I can't do this!" He threw 9 one dollar bills on the table and ran out the door.

I started to laugh at first because I thought this was the craziest thing I had seen in a while. When I got home he had E-mailed me telling me that I had used a younger photo (My photo was less than a year old) and that he couldn't sit across from me w/o wanting to "puke". He went on to say that if I had posted a more recent photo, nobody would have dated me. What is really weird about all this is that I have dated several men who are far better looking than this guy is and none complained about my photos or my looks.

Although I have gained some weight, in the past I have been told I was beautiful and looked like Ava Gardner....(when younger, of course!) This man's name is Allan but he also goes by Tim. If you run across him, BEWARE! I have decided that men must judge women by what they, themselves, actually look like. The good looking guys seem to think I look fine. Maybe the plain ones think they have to aim higher.

This date from hell story was submitted by:  Chris from Portland, Maine

Dr. Gooddate's response:

Thanks for the amusing story Chris.  I have to admit that I have heard all the stories of people walking out on dates in the past, but never for this reason!  Our photo fibber page in our gloassary talks all about the old photos, the misrepresenting photos and of course the completely misleading photos.  But yours was very recent, so had got to laugh when I read this.

My hunch is that the "more recent photo" line he used was probably just an excuse.  If he wasn't that into you, that is OK too, but my opinion is that he could have been a little more tactful and it wouldn't have killed him to spend a couple hours with you anyway.  But the icing on the cake was his email and his statment about wanting to puke.  I am more curious as to what made him choose to throw 9 dollar bills on the table.  And wouldn't you be a bit concerned about a guy who carries this many ones with him?!?!? LOL.  We know what he usually does with those, don't we!

Hey...not all men will be interested in you, that's just the way it is.  But the audacity of actually taking time to write an email that can only hurt the situation is ridiculous any way you look at it.  He probably should have just apologized for walking out and explained that he wasn't attracted to you.  But part for the course in the world of online dating, he felt it necessary to add insult to injury.  It goes without saying that any man who could act like this is not the man you want anyway.

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