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I went to an online Christian dating service, and one of the men (who went to my church) contacted me, and we e-mailed back and forth for a bit. I got an E-mail request to text him and meet him at one of the local casinos to listen to a band play. He told me he was a musician with a country type band, so I knew we had the love of music in common. I got there, and he had been drinking a bit, but I didn’t realize how much.

I found him very attractive, and I felt extremely lonely. My only daughter left that day, as she accepted a job in another state, and I felt very alone. He decided that he wanted to come back to my apartment. We had a nice time talking; he said some inappropriate things about his libido, but I over looked them. He then said he wanted to kiss me. We ended up in my bedroom.

Afterward, he appeared a bit cold and left. I never heard from him, so I texted him a message and he replied back to me that he was really embarrassed about what had happened, that it wasn’t like him to do something like that, and he blamed the alcohol. Although, he was able to drive home that night - go figure. He is a truck driver for a living, so be careful on the road, ladies. He told me never to mention what happened to anyone, and that he was moving on and really didn’t want to have anything to do with me again.

I was just sick, and my spirit was ripped to shreds. I only hope this person does not repeat his behavior again with any other vulnerable women. I warned him not to hurt anyone or bring his messes into the lives of innocent women. I still feel like a piece of garbage, small, vulnerable, and distraught. It just feels so horrible being used, and I blame myself because I allowed myself to be put in this position. I am working on getting rid of the baggage from this situation I allowed.

This date from hell story was submitted by:  Diane from Henderson, Nevada

Dr. Gooddate's response:

I must say Diane, discretion and good judgment are not your forte when it comes to a first date.

Going back to your place - BAD MOVE.  And you say HE DECIDED that he wanted to come back to your apartment.  Does everyone decide who can step into your home on a whim, or do you actually allow them in.  If it's as simple as someone deciding, then hey.... I'd like to come over for dinner tomorrow night. I like steak, so I'll expect you to have dinner ready at 7pm.  After all, I DECIDED that's what I wanted, and judging by your FIRST date with this man, I feel it safe to assume I am the one calling the shots.  So I'll see you at 7:00!

Of course, I'm kidding.  Your decision making was less than stellar.  Allowing him back to your home was the equivalent of saying you were "DTF" as the guys on Jersey Shore would say.  It's funny, but if you watch that show, you can learn a lot of lessons on how NOT to behave and you' ll also begin to realize what went through your date's mind when you willingly took him back to your place.

He got what he came for (pun intended) and then hit the road.  it wasn't the alcohol.  It wasn't the embarrassment.  It was his intent all along.

You can't go on blaming yourself.  Just learn from this and move on.  You're not the first woman this happened to, and you won't be the last.  You also won't be the last woman that he does this to.

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