Don't Throw the "L" Word Around So Easily
Listen up guys and girls. You met someone new. Your dates are
amazing. You click like never before - although if you think back, you've
probably clicked like this several times if not many time. It's just that you
are in the "now" and like always, you think "this" is different. Well it's
not. Love takes time. Love takes respect, growth, learning, sharing
and togetherness.
Like it or not, more than likely, you are infatuated. Yes, you are "in lust". Let
time pass before you spew at the mouth with the "I Love You's". There's
plenty of time for that. As time passes in your life, with age, wisdom and
experience, you will come to know the difference between love and infatuation.
I'm just so tired of hearing how in love someone is
after just a few weeks or months of knowing a person. No people, you are not in love yet,
but you are infatuated and that is not necessarily a bad thing. Think back to the
times you felt like this in the past, or the times your friends may have felt
the same way only to watch a brand new love wither away before your eyes.
It is also important to keep in mind that you might just scare the crap out of
the person for whom you're about to exclaim your never-ending love. Don't
be in such a rush to force things. Remember, you met online and you haven't
known this person for a very long time. Are there exceptions to this? Of
course there are. There are couples who have met, had an instant spark and
have now been married for many years. But I'll let you know that even they
weren't in love in those first few months. The relationship may have
blossomed into true love, but still, they were not in love right off the bat.
Feeling the joy, bliss and pleasure of that new, early "love" is amazing, trust
me, I know.
Put the right side of your brain aside and
use the more calculating, scientific, logical side for a moment.
Everything feels great, but again, please don't tell me you are in love so
quickly. Be patient and give a new relationship time to evolve before
overlooking what is important early on. If you feel the need to say "I
Love You" early on, I recommend keeping your mouth shut and substituting the
words "I really care for you and enjoy our time together" in its place.
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