Bad Day? Bad Mood? Your First Date Can Wait!
Unless you're dating a martyr or an emotionally miserable individual - which
I don't recommend - the
one thing you don't want to bring to a first date is negativity. It's
draining, it's downbeat and it is negatively memorable if this is your first date.
Oftentimes, I will arrive on a first date only to hear my date ramble on about
her work issues, her car problems, her problematic child, her crazy family, etc.
Enough! We all have baggage and bad days, some less than others. But
on a first date, do I really need to hear this?
Everybody
experiences good and not-so-good every day of their lives. Just don't
bring it to the first date. For one thing, you don't even know the person
well enough yet to dump your junk on him or her. Secondly, the energy we
emit is highly impactful on a subconscious level, whether it be positive or
negative energy. Don't be the person who always responds to "how are you
today?" with a negative spin on everything. Have you ever seen the
Debby Downer sketches on Saturday Night Live? Don't be her!
A first
date is meant to be a springboard for a potential relationship. If you're
full of negativity, the springboard will break when you jump and you'll fall
flat on your face. Keep the date upbeat, positive and energetic. If your day was so
bad that it impacts how you feel and interact with others, postpone the
first date. If you are capable of taking some time to decompress and unwind before
the date, and feel you can approach the situation feeling good, then by all
means go for it. If, however, you find yourself dwelling negatively over
anything, just let your date know you will need to reschedule.
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